Be Faithful. Have sex..w/ your husband!!!

 

Proverbs 31:11 says, “Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value”.

 This passage is talking about trust, but I believe that the trust goes more than with everyday things (trusting you paid that bill, or whatever). I believe that a wife also needs to be trusted in the bedroom.

 In today’s society, everyone seems to be cheating on everyone. Most of the time passages about being faithful are directed to the men, but today it’s just as much the woman cheating as the man. Hebrews 13: 4 says, “Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.”

 I see so often from the people I have met or know, where a spouse cheats, and this ends up tearing the couple apart. How can we get away from that though when we see girls showing more skin then they should be, or trying to lure the male in? How can we teach our children not to cheat while getting a divorce caused by cheating? How can we get away from this if sex is everywhere and not held to a biblical standard?  Women are taught that it’s okay to use your body to get who you want and when you want, as long as it’s your choice. That’s not right!!

“The words of an immoral woman may be as sweet as honey and as smooth as olive oil. But all that you really get from being with her is bitter poison and pain,” Proverbs 5:3-4. Proverbs goes on to say, “Don’t go crazy over a women who is unfaithful to her own husband! The Lord sees everything and he watches us closely,” in versus 20-21. I think these two versus go well together, it shows what an unfaithful women looks like then shows you to not follow, especially if she is married. But like I said, this is about the women cheating, and these two versus are all the same but with man replacing woman.

 

I’d like to say it’s simple, to just not cheat. Don’t do it. Don’t cheat emotionally or physically but there is more to it. Mathew 5:28 says, “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart”. What I get out of this is that when you look at another person and think they are hot, or look at porn, it’s sinning. This is hard to do, I’m guilty. You see a hot hunk of a guy walk by and make a comment to your girlfriend about getting him in bed. It’s hard not to lust after guys, especially of the Hollywood type. They made a whole movie about male strippers with some of the hottest actors. IT’S HARD!! It’s hard not to lust after men when ads feature them half naked, and they are everywhere (the ads not the overly attractive men). This is something I’m working on, and so is my husband. When you become conscious of how many times you think a male is hot or read a romance novel and day dream about the male character, it’s shocking how you are constantly thinking those types of thoughts. It amazes me who when I go anywhere, I will almost always spot a guy I think is cute, but now that I know where those thoughts lead and how it is a sin, I stop them immediately.  Half the time I don’t even look at guys anymore, because it’s not good.

 So now that we know there is a problem, not just within ourselves but also in society; how do we change it? SEX!!! Duh!!!! I know it sounds simple, but it’s in the top five reasons why people get divorced.  I understand that after a long day with work and kids, you don’t want to. I once went to a seminar and the speaker said that you should, even if you don’t want to. If you would just make yourself once, it can rekindle the spark. Just like that!! Like they say, It Only Takes One Time!!! Haha ok but in all seriousness, we have to have sex with our husbands!! Because you know what happens when you don’t, they go look for it elsewhere.  I’m not saying that is right, I’m not trying to make excuses, it’s just fact.

I leave with this,

 Corinthians 7:5 “Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self control”

Did you notice how God already knows we lack self control? Wives please, just love on your husband. If you’re having trouble in your marriage I would defiantly recommend doing the Fire Proof challenge. Even if you just start by simply touching your husband more often and showing affection.  Don’t go looking for pleasure elsewhere, be happy with who you married and love them as God loves you (and them for that matter).  We have to stop whatever it is that is happening, because I see this world turning into one big Sodom and Gomorrah.